@Joe wow way to blame the victim…

but in doing so you’ve conveniently ignored the entire history of women’s movements in india …from the women who fought for social reforms that led to the banning of sati and child marriage, to grassroots movements like chipko, to the women who drove legal reforms in the wake of nirbhaya to the millions of women who lined up to protest in kerala just earlier this year.

by the way there were many men who were also instrumental in those social reforms and many men who also took to the streets after nirbhaya …they didnt “break the bro code” they just stood up for whats right.

you know, the female labour force participation rate in india is 24% thats worse than sudan, libya, afghanistan and just one percentage point above saudi arabia… and a big reason is many women simply arent allowed the freedom to go out and make a living in this country. if they cant feed themselves how can they stand up for themselves. and yet many do. isnt that something?

and yes bollywood is not a great example of female solidarity. for example we didnt see powerful female stars form a movement like Times Up. But at least in the US, Weinstein is having his day in court. meanwhile the mumbai police keeps handing out clean chits to the accused left, right and centre (not because they’re men but probably because they’ve been paid off).

And dont forget not too long ago, sitting officials of the ruling political party threatened to behead a bollywood actress in broad daylight.

And our so-called powerful female stars cannot even dream of having the longevity of a reese witherspoon or nicole kidman who headline prestige projects well into their 40s and 50s. as filmgoing audiences we deserve the blame. after all we are the muppets who go to see misogynistic crap like kabir singh and sanju over and over again. no wonder bollywood cant even think about a film simply focusing on women’s contributions to space research (like the sublime Hidden Figures) without putting a sermonising akshay kumar at the heart of it.

Having studied gender equality at Uni here a quick lesson: women are NOT women’s worst enemies. Please stop with this false premise. It is about power and who holds it, in most societies – men. Whether as a father, brother or son, boss, community leader or a head of state. In order therefore to have a say themselves and grab some power for themselves women play the rules of the said society. Wanting a male child and getting a status through the role of being a mum of a son to being powerful as a mum-in-law against the daughter in law is a sign of it. Being a woman boss and treating junior women like $&@ is also a symptom of it. Flirting with bosses or powerful men to get a raise or promotion of a role in a movie (since we are on this site lol) is also a sign of the society’s mindset not the individual women’s. So let’s fix the root cause and stop making terrible assumptions about women. They are victims of patriarchy not the perpetrators

“Accused says if he wins, he will give money to those ‘falsely’ accused”….wow now THAT is called solidarity. Women Tch tch..learn from them.
Until recently, I thought since almost all powerful positions are occupied by men, hence naturally they use power to abuse women..probably that’s why all individual MeToo cases combined, it “appears” like individual women victims fighting the entire Male gender i.e. 50% population.

MeToo where 1 women tells the world (and through that the deaf and blind law agencies) about 1 man who raped/sexually assaulted her – somehow ALWAYS becomes a Male v/s Female debate which defeats the case for justice for that 1 man and 1 woman involved. Same story everywhere.

This blind demystifies the mystery – Since childhood, boys teach each other a so called bro-code that initially revolves around THEM working collectively for a friend who is trying to pursue his crush, a single girl. Whichever boy breaks the bro-code is literally banished and looked down upon by fellow males, never helped in future and termed a friend of the girls – which is also frowned upon by school boys “isi ne baat batayi hogi”. This eventually evolves into a gender based intra support group – to working collectively and helping each other out irrespective of right or wrong times (exceptions do exist, but men/women who stand up for right are never heard anywhere).

Of course, why else male colleagues bond better than male-female or females among themselves? Why male bosses support male subordinates many a times unjustly, irrespective of merit. Why male employees feel at home socializing through smoking, drinking and gossiping over girls..that is what they have been doing since high school and college, they aren’t doing anything different, they are just doing what they did all their life. Why Rachel in F.R.I.E.N.D.S had Rachel cribbing over why her gender or lack of smoking/drinking hampered her networking with bosses, mostly males – same story everywhere. Why even among family relatives, while aunts can’t stand each other, uncles irrespective of family differences are able to heartily strike a conversation in their drink party going on beside the bar discussing their respective Mrs. antics!!! Nothing changes for men since school-college.

Likewise, whenever a women stands up to speak to men and women – the women care a damn because that’s what they have learnt since school, while men naturally react with their bro-code mindset, and gel together to stand for their “group”, and oppose the women ‘attacking’ bro-code solidarity. Any man who supports women victims, breaks that ingrained mindset of bro-code and he always stands alone, called names. No man supports him, they see him as a traitor, others become uncomfortable at their “group” member legitimizing the fact that men actually bitch about women, speak the worst of abuses, commit the worst of crimes and worst, discuss it among themselves and what pleasure they received! And women anyway don’t care about which man or woman supports that woman victim or not, that is just what they learnt…short sightedness. UNTIL, these women themselves land up as a victim and cry out, but like how she reacted in other cases, when she cries, she too cries alone.

So, while Kangana fights her rape case alone, Alok Nath victim fights her rape case alone, likes of Aditya Pancholi, Alok Nath are supported even more by staying silent when issue is hot and giving them more work and more films, and later when things cool down, the entire male group jumps on flood of vocal support and solidarity. 1 Zaira Wasim flight case turns out false and this 1 case is cited each time by millions of men who are speaking as a gender group of how males are threatened/falsely accused/demanding lesser rights for women OR equal rights for both men and women. Men fully know the false cases are from both sides – men and women but are minuscule in comparison to India being the rape capital of the world, but it is all about bro-code mentality and they HAVE to stand together irrespective of right or wrong. Even on social media, if some man posts logically for a particular crime case, other men jump in to school him how he could not see “women are attacking us”.

Hence, whenever a man is attacked/accused by a woman, that woman stands alone, while man is backed immediately and feverishly by most males – they continue to do what they have been doing all along, bitch about that women, throw slur that woman, even before verdict comes out, call that woman a liar/questionable, support their argument by mentioning xyz case where a woman case turned out false, other common men jump in, they start feeling threatened as males by this new age attack by individual women against individual powerful men.

Damn, that is exactly why – globally men help their fellow men subordinates to climb success, why men ensure no one leaks about filth men propagate and commit and gossip about women, why men ALWAYS target women in jest/calling them blonde/bimbo/if promoted she must have slept, why men ALWAYS stand in solidarity with their gender. It is not just a coincidence that esp. today when women are increasingly educated and capable, their numbers in position of power is minuscule, their say in family matters is miniscule, their say in freedom to live her life the way she wants – clothes she wear/food she eats/etc.- is also dictated by men.

This male solidarity is a solid SOLID wall that women will face in every walk of life. And because males are in every powerful position, they will naturally bring bro-code. Even Politicians, police take ease teasing/sexual harassment lightly “ladki ne hi kuch kiya hoga”/”are madam kyu court-kacheri mein fasti hai, shukr manayi aap bach gyi, ghar jaeyi aur ghar se bahar dekh ke nikle”.

Women on the other hand have never learnt to work in solidarity. Women crimes are an epidemic in India still millions of individual women fight their exact same cases alone.While men criminals always work in groups and get support even in wrong things by fellow men. 1 woman can never win against a large group of people (men who will obviously support and women who will be indifferent). Even women victims will NEVER lend voice/support for other women victims. Exceptions like Kangana, Mahesh Bhupati are far and few to have any impact on this unsaid wall.

No, there is no gender genetics responsible for men grouping for protection while females leading lives alone, it is just a learned social behavior since centuries aided by Western, Religious male domination rules that have become legal laws in several countries. Probably, it is a homosapiens thing..like Male Elephants/tigers move alone while Females move in herds, probably in homosapiens Male move in herds while female move alone – but it is all socially acquired behavior.

MeToo will keep on failing – individual women can’t keep fighting male group
Office networking will always run on male preferences i.e. over drinking, smoking, female colleague gossip. Women WILL have to participate or hope to find merit based opportunity
Uncles will keep on bitching about Aunties and Mrs.
Male comedians will keep mocking female – bodies, assets, curves, sizes, intellect, achivements
The only unconditional support/solidarity men provide women is by fathers and brothers who will stand by their daughters and sisters irrespective of right or wrong, never the wives or other female relations. Exceptions always exist.
Women will never create support for themselves because of their short sightedness. Somewhere some generation of women MIGHT stop transferring the same foolishness to their female descendants. Saas should always kill Bahu and vice-versa. Devrani-Jhetani. Bhabi-Nanad, 1 women fighting another for a boy (men strictly follow bro-code), 1 woman dragging other down to be 1 up above her (men always negotiate among themselves to work together to get a larger pie and share it). No wonder National Commission of Women is toothless, no wonder National Commission for men is not required since it wont add anything to male support group that already exists.

Anyway,

Women, too bad…you are digging your own graves of being forever lonely. Pity! When Kangana, etc. said women need to support each other, she has seen as a victim how the industry supported men.

Men, too too good…excellent invention of bro-code social technique, it lasts a lifetime and till the time you keep moving around in groups, NO one can break even a single one of you before fighting the entire gender. You turn all individual cases into gender debates, like this restaurateur who called on other men for support. Bravo!

p.s. It is not a man v/s women debate or competition. Rather, it is about survival. Men solidarity and results achieved, how it helped them flourish and separately women solidarity (if any) and results achieved and how it helped them flourish (despite the odds).